So it’s officially been 10 years since my wonderful husband and I got married. I have to say that it has truly need the best 10 years of my life. Khary has blessed me to have 4 wonderful kids and he’s an awesome dad. We’ve come a long way since that first year. Man a 21 and 23 year old getting married and having a baby? That was still such a crazy concept to people. Neither one of us can say that it was easy cause boy did we have our issues! But we can say that over the last 10 years we have grown to be more understanding, loving and caring for each other. Khary may get on my nerves and I know I get on his but you what, he’s the best thing that ever happened to me. Love you honey can i can’t wait to enjoy the next 10, 10 and more 10’s!
As women one of our great concerns is weight. once we become preggo we’re reminded of how huge our butts, stomach, breast and thighs are getting at every appointment. We stand at the scale making sure we have on little to nothing to cut some of the weight off! Then that red number pops up and we look in horror as the nurse write in our chart that we’ve gained 10-20 lbs in the last 4 weeks. All the docs and the “FDA” have put a range of weight gain from 0-35. 35lbs? Really?? Wth my first i tried so hard to not gain that much cause I was 21 and stupid! I gained all of 10lbs with my first. I knew I was hot stuff! Jada (#2) I gained 35, Kendall (#3) about 50! I had to lose about 70lbs after her to get back to my ‘pre preggo’ weight. It took me a year to lose it all. I walked everyday and breastfeed until she was 15 months. But I like everyone woman obsessed about that weight. My husband of course let me know that he loved me no matter what. (He gained about 10-15 with each!) just when I was back in kick butt shape Khary lets me know that i’m preggo once again. HUH? What are you talking about? I took the test and yes I was preggo again with #4! I wanted to kill over. Honestly not because of the pain or anything because i didn’t want to gain another 30-50 lbs! Working out SUCKS and I don’t like to watch what I eat! I cried at the thought. (Vein I know!) But as women we hit 30 and people start telling us about the 30 year old curse and that we can’t ever lose that weight again. I just knew that my ass was going to be a max truck and my breast where officially going to hand to my belly button. I gained about 40lbs with Cam. (sigh) It took about 6 months this time for me to lose it. I walked a lot. A LOTTT! I guess the moral of my story is F the weight really! You will lose it, keep it, but once you look at that little person you brought into the world you see that your battle wounds are so worth it. Because you babies will love you and all your curves or lack there of!
I have a lot of friends contacting me about ways to help with engorged breast or blocked milked ducts. This can be one ofbthe most painful things for a new mom to deal with. The fact that you just had a baby, can’t sleep, baby crying for some reason unknown to you, your now walking around killed over in pain. I know as mom we say “Man I haven’t showered in days” but a shower for a new mom is a must. Not only will it relax you but putting warm or hot towels on your breast while in the shower will help with engorgment. While in the shower place a warm towel over each breast and softly massage each breast. This will help the milk to flow. You will probably leak milk but that’s ok cause you have more then enough for baby. Make sure that your keeping track of the last breast you feed the baby on. That way your not filling up a breast more then needed. Also feeding at will is a most for the first few weeks. Your baby will want yo feed every 45 mins to two hours that first month. I know this can be really overwhelming but your keeping that bond up with your baby and breast milk digest faster then formula. After every feeding allow your breast to air out. Don’t just put them away! Take a little breastmilk and rub itvon your nipple and allow it to dry before putting it back in your bra. This will stop your breast from cracking or being as sore. Over time your body will get used to your babies feeding needs. Just be patient with the process. Good luck moms!